I recently was getting to know this guy, you know the beginning phase of dating\/courting where you\u2019re still trying to figure out if you even really like the person. Anyway, he seemed like a cool down to earth dude. We would intermittently text, talk on the phone, went on a few dates. Well after about date number five I realized I wasn\u2019t feeling him. I didn\u2019t know exactly why I was no longer interested, but something just wasn\u2019t clicking. \u201cHe\u2019s too serious\u201d \u201cHe\u2019s too loud\u201d \u201cHe\u2019s too indecisive\u201d. A Sista just could not put her finger on what it was, and it was bothering me because he was a good catch. Then randomly, amidst cleaning my kitchen, it dawned on me. Aha! He\u2019s too woke.<\/p>\n
Now don\u2019t get it twisted. I consider myself woke and love a man that is conscious of social injustice happening within communities especially communities of color. I\u2019m all for discussing the unyielding justice systems oppression of black men and women. However, I have learned too much wokeness is EXHAUSTING and to be frank, depressing. My point is, I\u2019m not trying to be woke ALL the time. I like to consider myself an 80:20 type of gal. Meaning I\u2019m about 80% woke and 20 % unwoke and when a sista is unwoke she is snoozzzzing.<\/p>\n
Like, hit that alarm five times type of unwoke
\ncrust in my eyes type of unwoke
\npanties and no bra type of unwoke
\nREM sleep type of unwoke<\/p>\n
When I\u2019m unwoke I\u2019m trying to listen to some trap music, watch my ratchet shows and throw that ass in a circle on the dance floor one time.
\nYou catch my drift lol.<\/p>\n
Being unwoke is a way for me to escape reality because lord knows once I leave my apartment and \u201cstep into the world\u201d I will constantly be reminded of my blackness. Hearing about deaths of innocent black men, women and children, dealing with daily racial microaggressions, reading about the corrupt criminal justice system, etc. after awhile these things take a toll on your spirit. I like to distance myself from all the chaos in the world and recharge and when I\\’m recharging sometimes I\\’m UNWOKE. So yeah I had to let him go.<\/p>\n
Stay blessed. Remember, you are loved \u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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