Love cannot grow in the soil of codependency
It wilts where validation is currency
Where attention is mistaken for affection
Real love requires wholeness
Two people meeting as equals, not as halves trying to complete each other
But many men have never been taught this
They chase love not to share themselves, but to fill the emptiness within
Mistaking conquest for connection
Approaching love like a mission
Something to win, prove, or possess
The dinners, the compliments, the gestures
They seem kind, but often they’re transactional in measure
An unspoken bargain that says, “If I give, you’ll give back and I’ll finally feel enough.”
But love is not about what you receive, but what you offer freely without needing to be repaid
Love is generosity clothed in quiet authenticity Selfless giving, unforced and true
When a man’s worth depends on how a woman sees him, his love can never truly reach her
It will always circle back to his ego…
Hungry, fragile, unfulfilled
Love cannot grow in the soil of codependency
It wilts where validation is currency